By Sikivu Hutchinson
As Proposition 8’s lead attorney trotted out the standard Christian fascist, marriage is only for procreation, party line before the Supreme Court yesterday, I was reminded of a 2011 Los Angeles Times story about the changing demographics of California families.
The article leads with an idyllic portrait of a white, lesbian-headed family whose daughter is asked “on a leafy drive…at a newly renovated home with cathedral ceilings and a backyard pool” why she has three mommies.
According to the U.S. Census, families are becoming less nuclear, headed up by more single parents, childless couples and LGBT couples with children. Yet family diversity is only a revelation in the mainstream media, which continues to promote the model of a nuclear family-hood, even if it is provisionally represented by elite, white, gay, The Kids Are Alright-style, yuppie throwbacks with photogenic children.
Historically, families of color have always been diverse by culture, economic necessity and social obligation. Extended African American family networks of adult caregivers, gay and straight, related and unrelated, have always contributed to childrearing.
When racist/sexist criminal sentencing policies, joblessness and inequitable access to housing loosened or precluded traditional family ties, multi-generational family networks were the glue. As the recession intensifies these stressors, grandparents, aunts, adoptive parents, foster parents and “play cousins,” from all walks of life, increasingly become frontline providers for African American children.
The Times’ snapshot of affluent comfort contrasts with the realities of many LGBT families of color who struggle to stay above the poverty line. Further, the depiction of white childrearing and parenting as the de facto norm contributes to the national narrative that non-traditional families of color can never represent an authentic model of family.
However, the number of same-sex families of color are increasing, especially in traditionally conservative Bible Belt regions in the South. African American strongholds like Atlanta have seen a new black re-migration – driven by the ripple effects of high unemployment, foreclosures and gentrification in the northern urban black communities.
According to Family Equality, LGBT families are “more racially and ethnically diverse than families headed by married heterosexual couples. Of same-sex couples with children, 41 percent are people of color, compared to 34 percent of married different-sex couples with children.”
Impacted by racism, sexism, heterosexism and segregation, same-sex families of color are also more likely to be near the poverty line and hence more reliant on public social welfare and health care assistance. Yet textbooks, TV and Hollywood films envision culturally diverse LGBT families through the lens of the privileged white middle class, who have benevolently decided to adopt a child of color (like the white gay couple on the sitcom Modern Family) or use expensive reproductive technology to have children.
In this context, marriage equality merely secures white wealth and white patriarchy, as white gay families also benefit from segregated neighborhoods, schools, tax credits for middle class homeowners and higher-paying jobs.
Complex families of color that are either headed by single gay or straight parents are marginalized as inherently dysfunctional, welfare-dependent and socially borderline.
Loving gay partners of color with children are nonexistent.
This media whiteout has insidious implications for both straight and gay children of color. If gay children of color don’t see loving gay and lesbian caregivers then they will continue to internalize their own dehumanization. If straight children of color don’t see loving representations of LGBT parents and families of color, gayness will still be viewed as a lifestyle choice, a sin in the eyes of God and white deviance.
In 2011, the California State Assembly passed a bill requiring K-12 classrooms to teach students about the contributions of the LGBT communities and historical figures. There is little evidence that this well-intentioned law has any teeth, as Ellen DeGeneres is the only prominent lesbian most high school students seem to know and most dialogue on homophobia never progresses beyond a token lesson about bullying.
In my gender, justice and sexuality work with high school students, I’ve used films and texts such as That’s a Family, Straightlaced, Rethinking Schools, Byron Hurt’s Beyond Beats and Rhymes and Christine Sleeter’s Turning on Learning guidebook. Yet there are virtually no K-12 resources that address the racialization of gender and sexuality.
Curricula and pedagogy that deal with the particular way hetero-normativity plays out for youth of color in a white supremacist culture where black and Latino sexuality is already demonized as savage and pathological, are few and far between.
Moreover, the absence of public conversation around the role religious bigotry plays in the epidemic of homelessness amongst African American youth is a critical blind spot.
Despite all the hype around gay-friendly congregations, as well as recent data suggesting black gays and lesbians are just as invested in religious communities as straights, cultural messages about the sin of homosexuality as an affront to masculinity and the ideal of strong black families headed by good black patriarchs are still widespread in black communities.
Increasing numbers of Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgendered and Questioning (LGBTQ) youth of color are becoming homeless due to overt anti-gay harassment, emotional/physical abuse and lack of social acceptance by their families and communities.
LGBTQ black and Latino youth are also more likely to be suspended and expelled than are white LGBTQ youth.
With African American children comprising nearly 40 percent of the nation’s foster care and homeless youth populations, culturally responsive feminist approaches to caregiving and family sustainability are crucial.
Living in a culture in which they are reminded daily of their non-existence by a white supremacist heterosexist nation that deifies straight white beauty ideals and views affordable housing as a privilege, some LGBTQ homeless youth of color resort to destructive behaviors like survival sex and drug abuse.
Demographic patterns have long shifted to make whites a minority in the U.S. Yet, mainstream media is still in the segregationist Ozzie and Harriet era when it comes to the realities of families of color – buttressing bankrupt social welfare policies that expose the Christian fascist sham of American family values.
Sikivu Hutchinson is the author of Moral Combat: Black Atheists, Gender Politics, and the Values Wars and the forthcoming Godless Americana: Race and Religious Rebels.
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